Since I'm in Aristotle mood

Here's the man, a pagan, whom St. Thomas called The Philosopher:

Men acquire a particular quality by constantly acting a particular way. We become just by performing just actions, temperate by performing temperate actions, brave by performing brave actions.

And gay by performing gay actions. Because, as The Philosopher says:

Or, in one word, the habits are produced from the acts of working like to them ... whether we are accustomed this way or that straight from childhood ... I would say it makes all the difference.